The Preachers Wife

Good Versus Evil 

“She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:12            

The age old story, good versus evil. Some days, it’s very hard to be kind, even to those that you love. I’m still amazed at the complexities a woman has. One moment, we’re thrilled beyond belief with the one we love and suddenly, without warning, we begin to be grumpy and angry. What’s worse, we tend to bottle it in and not talk about what is going on in our minds. So, when we become cold or distant, our husbands are left wondering what’s going on with us. I’m reminded more and more each day how differently our Father designed us. Women are very emotional creatures, endless analyzers, and masterful at the emotional roller coaster. Our poor husbands are left wondering who we are and where we came from!            

Doing good unto our husbands, even during those emotional days, can be difficult. We’re so quick to be doers of good for strangers yet, we typically aren’t as quick to do good unto our beloved. Why? Is it because they left a towel on the bathroom floor, or if you pick up one more dirty sock off of the floor you’ll scream? Naturally, the husband/wife relationship is far more intimate and personal than that of a stranger. We see those faults, we recognize how different women and men are. We’re still commanded to do good unto our husbands. I often times consider my Father in Heaven and think of how many times I’ve been the one receiving the good and not evil. Being the receiver of such a gift, especially when you don’t feel like you deserve it, stirs your soul and plasters a smile on your face. He afforded me those blessings and looked past what I’ve done. He didn’t hold my short comings against me, He loved me and blessed me even though I was unlovable.            

Doing good unto your husband is far more than tangible items that are provided. It goes farther; how we behave around/not around our husbands, how we speak about our husbands, and how we treat our husbands. Far too many times marriages are broken by what was done when husband or wife wasn’t looking. In dark or light, visible or not, we are still expected to remain ladies. Farther, our speech and behavior around our husbands or lack thereof,  is imperative. I cringe when I see a wife belittling or talking poorly about her husband. I wonder to myself, ‘Why’d you marry him?’ The evil doings causes two major events to take place in the marriage, first your husband will naturally feel like he’s less of a man which will cause bitterness and separation. Secondly, after years, months, days, or weeks of feeling like he doesn’t stack up, he’s going to step down. God designed marriage as the man as the head of the home and the woman to be the help-meet. Reversing those roles will inevitably cause major rifts because it was not designed by God to be as such.            

Farther into Proverbs 31, it says “Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.” v.23 No doubt, he was not known for his inability but for his ability. I imagine the virtuous woman going to the market place and bragging about what a wonderful provider her husband is, and his faith in God. He was known for the good that his wife announced, not the bad. Sure, it’s without doubt that they had hard times, he probably got on her nerves a few times, and I’m sure he left his dirty sandles on her clean floor. However, she knew that lifting him up and letting him be known for his good Godly works would promote him to a place in the marriage that God intended. My desire is that all ladies see the value and importance of their actions and the words they have towards their husbands. I hope that each woman reading be doers of good and not evil all the days of their life.            

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